Wanna Advice?

I think advising comes quite easily to human beings. Ask anyone for his/her advice/ opinion/suggestion, and bang comes the reply...no matter how irrelevant/cliched it may be. Well, I am no exception to this generalization. But this is a fact that no one can understand the worries of a sufferer until and unless one goes through the same suffering. No matter how empathetic u pretend to be, you cannot put yourself into the shoes of the victim. And then how fake/artificial/emotionless seems the so-called "advice" of the so called "well-wisher". I can very easily try to console my friends when their failures in life force them to get worried but when once upon a time I was in the same spot, relatively I was far more worried. But aren't these worries a part of life? You can never be free of them. It started (for me) from class 5 (as I don't recollect how i felt before that time period). I had to score the highest in class. And so I was crazy about marks. This continued till class 12. But the aim in class 12 was to get admission in a good college (i.e., north campus, DU). They said once you get into a good college, you are done. I got into a reputed college (not north campus but yes...DU). Again worked hard for marks (though couldn't get them) but then went on to struggle hard for placement (as I couldn't clear CAT). When I got a job finally, thought will work for atleast 2 yrs before my second attempt for CAT. Though had great fun at work but it could not keep me happy for long. Felt the job was not apt for me and my skills got wasted. Got another job but at the same time good luck made me get a good %ile in CAT too. Didn't go for the other job and decided to convert the calls from B-schools. Joined coaching classes and got under tremendous pressure. What a sigh a relief I took when I came to know that I was selected by one B-school. It seemed nothing can cause worries now. But no......it visited me again as soon as i entered the B-school life. Teething problems, then Summer training exercise(a struggle similar to the one I faced after graduation), and now grades (back to square one...marks)! Gosh...I know I should come out of this school mentality but really can't help it. I realize one problem is the degree to which you get influenced by your environment.
My friend once suggested that I should compete with myself. A good advice indeed...but when the entire world plans to compete with others and when you are measured against others, how can I compete with (poor) myself! Had everything been under my control, I would never let anybody compete with anyone. How simple life could have been then! But then, I guess, there would have been no fun! Someone please tell me what do I want....such a restless soul!

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