Being a girl...

Ever asked a girl how does it feel being of the female gender? Now you would say when I never asked a guy, what is so special being a girl? I would say, it wouldn't have been if the Indian society wouldn't been a male chauvinistic society. People say it is the weaker sex, the reason being that we are dependent on our male counterparts for leading our lives. Although it has been proved wrong by many bold females by challenging and going against the generally accepted rules and regulations for girls, there are still several areas, where the battle is still on.

Now without getting into the details of "Equality for Women in society" issue, I would take the case of one my friends. Let me call her Ms. M. Now this girl, like all my friends, is a highly confused but simple and modest (to an extreme) girl. She hasn’t had a boyfriend in her 22 yr long life. But is now developing feelings for a guy on whom she first had a crush (is it called puppy love??). Ok..looks simple. But see to what extent a girl can complicate a simple scenario. She instead of trying to explore the person to know him better, tries to ignore him whenever he approaches her. She also side by side keeps evaluating him from a long term perspective (i.e., as a candidate for becoming life partner). As per her analysis till date, she found him to be a good guy, of the same caste, and with a good family background. The only problem is (not even that he drinks and smokes) that he has had a girl friend before. So he is no more a fresh piece (not physically…remember the guy is good but emotionally). Hmm…I tried to explain to her that in today’s world there are very few people like us who have never been involved in such unofficial relationships. Well, and life moves on. Wouldn’t we advice our heart broken friend to move on if her relationship with a boy fails? Well, but Ms. M remains as confused as she was earlier inspite of me telling her all this. Would she never disclose her feelings to that boy? Why won't she? I guess the biggest reason would be her concern for her parents. She is a typical middle class girl who would never think of defying her parents nor would she have the guts to tell her parents about her feelings for this guy. Why are the parents apprehensive of accepting such a relationship of their daughter? Isn't it the society's unlaid rules? If a boy is involved in a relationship, his age is to be blamed but if a girl does something of this sort, her character is blamed.

Even if I am concentrating on the scenario prevalent in only one section of Indian society, the other section giving equal treatment to both the genders, I am quite sure the former forms the majority.

What does a girl want in life?? Love/ respect/dignity/freedom/attention?? Well, all that a human being wants...!